Dear daughter, let Miley Cyrus be a lesson to you

26 Aug

Dear daughter, let Miley Cyrus be a lesson to you.

Yes, this is what happens when you constantly hear everything you do is awesome. This is what happens when people fawn over your every Tweet and Instagram photo. This is what happens when no responsible adult has ever said the word “no,” made you change your clothes before leaving the house, or never spanked your butt for deliberate defiance.

If you ever even consider doing something like that, I promise you that I will run up and twerk so you will see how ridiculous twerking looks. I will duct tape your mouth shut so your tongue doesn’t hang out like an overheated hound dog. I will smack any male whom you decide to smash against his pelvis – after I first knock you on your butt for forgetting how a lady acts in public.

Why would I do that? Because I love you and I want you to respect yourself. Miley Cyrus is not edgy or cool or sexy. She’s a desperate girl screaming for attention: Notice me. Tell me I’m pretty. See how hot I am. I know all the guys want me. All the girls want to be me.

You probably know girls who will emulate this behavior at the next school dance. Don’t do it with them. You are far too valuable to sell yourself so cheaply. Walk away. Let the boys gawk and know in your heart that they see only a body that can be used for their pleasure and then forgotten.

I’m sorry if you’ve ever felt sad because I haven’t gushed over everything you’ve done. My role is to praise when praise is due, but also to offer constructive criticism and correction when it is needed as well. I’m sorry if you’ve ever felt demoralized because your Instagram following isn’t in the thousands, and I’m sorry those “selfies” can never capture how amazingly beautiful you truly are. I’m sorry if you’ve ever wished you had a friend instead of a mom, and I promise you that I will probably get worse when you hit high school.

Dear daughter, I am going to fight or die trying to keep you from becoming like the Miley Cyruses of the world.

You can thank me later.

Comment Policy:  (Thanks for your feedback. Due to sheer volume of comments, the discussion section was closed 10-5-13.)
I welcome your feedback, but I will not tolerate personal attacks against me, my family or another commenter.

It’s okay to disagree, but be respectful. Attack the issue, not the person.  Vulgarity, racism, religion bashing, slams about sexual orientation, name calling, advertisements and generally being a jerk to others will send your comment to the trash bin.

So play nice.

1,699 Responses to “Dear daughter, let Miley Cyrus be a lesson to you”

  1. Tammy December 19, 2013 at 9:41 AM #

    That is a great post, if I had a daughter I would say the exact say thing. I do the same thing with my sons, we have conversations about stuff like Miley Cyrus because they need to know that fame and fortune does not buy love. Love is not just about what you give your children to make them smile, love is also about instilling in them self respect and confidence. Thanks for such a great post.

  2. Ursulla Wulandari November 18, 2013 at 9:52 AM #

    When I was 14, my father gave a question “why start with kissing it might make you pregnant?” The question made me confused, I could not answer at my age. In Indonesia a lesson about sex and behavior with the guy is a rare things to be discussed between the parents and the child. But began with that question, my father also gave more extensive explanation about men and teach me how I have to act in school. When I went to high school, my father told he prohibit me to have a relationship with any boyfriend, I can have friends doesn’t matter girls or boys, but don’t have serious relationship with boys. My girlfriends said is stupid rule, because I do not have a relationship with any boyfriend. But after graduated, I knew that my father made a rule like that because he knew for sure that a woman has the age of maturity to know how to start a relationship with a man. My father died when I was 20 years old, but so far I am very grateful, because he gave a clear insight knowledge about teenager characters and how to provide an understanding of how a man should treat a woman. Because of his lessons and rules, now I’m married with a man who really respect me and adore me, he also accept me as I’m.


  1. “Dear daughter, let Miley Cyrus be a lesson to you” | Cruz Santos Media - February 3, 2014

    […] – Kim Keller [] […]

  2. An Open Letter To My Daughter | Drop DAD Gorgeous - January 21, 2014

    […] […]

  3. Cómo una señorita se comporta en público : Xpressate - December 31, 2013

    […] facebook encontré este artículo que todas mis amigas están compartiendo como locas. Se llama “Dear daughter, let Miley Cyrus be a lesson to you”. En dicho artículo, una madre le escribe a su hija una carta acerca de cómo puede valorarse […]

  4. Is it hate speech? You decide. | Roadkill Goldfish - December 27, 2013

    […] to be gang-raped for your stupidity.” The comment was left for a female blogger who wrote about why she didn’t want her daughter to emulate Miley Cyrus’s behavior. The blogger is conservative and of mixed ethnicity. The gender and ethnicity of the commenter are […]

  5. Dear Jellybean…a note on Miley Cyrus | Modern Pinay Mom - December 1, 2013

    […] […]

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s


Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

%d bloggers like this: