When the pack attacks: Is there anything we can do to fight back against group bullying?

19 Oct

BulliesThe photos make like them look like girls who could be in my daughter’s middle school; however, I’m not looking at yearbook photos, I’m looking at the mug shots of two Florida tweens charged with felony aggravated stalking. Police say their history of online bullying and verbal and physical assault contributed to the suicide of a former classmate, 12-year-old Rebecca Sedwick.

The alleged ringleader, age 14, launched a 10-month reign of terror against Rebecca because the then sixth-grader had the audacity to be the former girlfriend of Queen Bee’s beau. Yes, all this is over a boy. Queen Bee influenced at least 15 other girls to join the attack against Rebecca, and the pack even went after girls who tried to be friends with their target. Queen Bee managed to recruit Rebecca’s best friend to not only join the gang, but also to physically assault her.

See the rest of my op-ed piece at Fox News Latino.

7 Responses to “When the pack attacks: Is there anything we can do to fight back against group bullying?”

  1. Miffy October 21, 2013 at 1:23 AM #

    I was bullied mercilessly from grade 4 to grade 12 by our pastor’s son, who was in my class all the way through school. Needless to say, school was a nightmare for me. I’m old enough that there was no internet, so i do feel like i dodged a bullet. 🙂 But at the same time, I’m very sensitive to bullying behaviour, & when it started up with our son, we tried alot of different strategies. With some of the kids, it worked, because their parents were engaged. But the most effective thing was to give our son the tools to handle it himself. and it’s made such a difference! He’s in a new school, & when a kid started in on him daily, he used what we taught him, & came home all proud & excited that he had faced down the bully, & the kid had backed off. Our son is 12, & we consider him too young to be on social media. He does not own a smart phone, ipod, or any device that connects to the internet. His only computer access is in our presence, with our permission. We have discussed this all with him, explained why we are doing this. We regularly discuss news articles around cyber bullying to drive it all home. He gets it. We’ve told him – he’s our precious boy and we take our role as his parents very seriously.

    • Kim Keller October 23, 2013 at 8:46 AM #

      Your son is lucky to have you as a mom! I’m proud of you and his dad for taking this parenting thing so seriously. The world needs more folks like you.🙂

  2. Anne October 19, 2013 at 7:57 PM #

    Yes, it stems from the parents who are role models for their kids.

    Is it possible to avoid it? Not have a Facebook, twitter or e-mail account?
    That sounds like punishment to a child. But what’s worse? To be cyber bullied or to be considered old-fashioned and safe as a result?
    If it is at all possible to remove someone from the source, that could help so it can’t ever get started.

    How can teachers not know who to believe when cyber bullying can be read by others?

    Why can’t they have cyber bullying be a felony? Couldn’t a law be passed?

  3. Huseyin Yar October 19, 2013 at 7:06 PM #

    Parents need to stop comparing their lives to “Housewives of Whatever” and similar reality shows and explain to their kids that their actions/actors & behaviors on these shows are not real nor appropriate. Some of them actually act out adult bullying. Kids copy them.

    • Kim Keller October 19, 2013 at 7:16 PM #

      I agree. And bullies tend to have parents who are bullies as well.

Trackbacks/Pingbacks

  1. What happens when child bullies grow up? They become adult bullies. | Roadkill Goldfish - November 22, 2013

    […] had a “teachable moment” with my daughter and some of her friends regarding the recent suicide of Rebecca Sedwick, a 12-year-old Florida girl who was ruthlessly bullied online by a pack of tween girls. The girls […]

  2. Why are we praising the kids who created #lookadouche? | Roadkill Goldfish - November 19, 2013

    […] proof? Talk to Rebecca Sedwick’s family. The 12-year-old committed suicide this fall after a pack of girls ruthlessly bullied her – over a […]

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